Invites and save the dates are the first taste of your wedding for your guests. They don't just communicate the details of the day, they also tell your guests how formal your wedding will be, what your wedding colours are and will hopefully show something of you and your partner's personalities.
One of the most memorable save the dates that we've ever received was a magnet. We just knew from this that the wedding day was bound to be quirky and fun. If this was their save the date, we couldn't wait to see what they'd do with the actual day!
Unfortunately the design of our wedding invites was actually one of the most stressful parts of planning our wedding. So interwoven with the tips below, I've included some of the things that I've learned and would do differently if we were to do it again. I hope it's helpful for you!
1. Pick Your Designer Wisely
It could be you, Paperchase, a creative friend, an Aunty with a glue gun or a professional stationery designer. Have a think about the kind of wedding stationery you'd like to have, your budget and the skills at your disposal to make it a reality.
Are you a creative person who would adore designing your stationery yourself? Can you use your gifts of lettering, drawing, photography, decoupage or Adobe Indesign? If you're confident with those sorts of things, then go for it! You'll be able to create something completely personal to you and your partner, with none of the faff or cost of hiring someone else to do it.
If, however, you don't feel you have the skills or time to do this, then there are lots of beautiful pre-printed sets of wedding stationery in shops like Paperchase and Hobbycraft, as well as a wide variety of professional designers out there to choose from.
We went down the designer route and I came across our designer through searching for Yorkshire Wedding Stationery Designers on Google. I had a look at her website, saw her previous designs and read some testimonials from her past customers, and was confident enough to go with her.
2. Extras & Details
Invites and save the dates can vary hugely. Have a think about the little details that you might want to include. Examples from our wedding stationery are that we made our save the dates and RSVPs postcards, to make sending them as easy as possible, and to save money on envelopes!
We also included a brief timeline with our invitations, so that our guests could get an idea of the shape of the day.
3. The Wording
Take some time to think about the wording you'd like to use. Would you like it to be formal or informal?
Who is inviting your guests to your wedding day? This is often representative of who is financing the day; is it the bride's parents (e.g. Mr and Mrs Pitstop request the honour of your company at the celebration of the marriage of their daughter Penelope Goody to Dick Bad-Guy Dastardly), the couple getting married (e.g. Penelope Pitstop and Dick Dastardly request the honour of your company at the celebration of their marriage), or is it a bit of both (e.g. Together with their families, Penelope Pitstop and Dick Dastardly request the honour of your company at the celebration of their marriage)?
4. Make Sure You & Your Partner Know What You Want
Here the Pinteresting from one of my previous Wedding Bells posts comes in handy. Have a look around at examples of other wedding stationery before you meet with a designer (or start designing your own). Go prepared with the types of stationery you would like (save the dates, invites, maps, RSVPs, menus, seating plan, etc...), the wedding colours and the general tone you'd like to set (e.g. formal or informal).
The problem that my husband and I ran into, was that we'd discussed these things a little bit before we met with our designer, but it turned out to not be enough. This meant that we weren't really on the same page and led to confusion when our designer was asking about things like colours and font preferences.
Feel free to take some examples with you of wedding stationery that you've seen and like, find out if your designer is able to achieve that sort of thing for you, and don't be afraid to look for another designer if this one can't do it.
5. Make Sure Your Designer Knows What You Want
Before leaving your initial meeting with your designer, run through with them all that you've discussed, and make sure that they have fully understood the brief that you've given them.
They may well have plenty of other clients that they're catering to at the same time as you, so make sure that the hours they put in for you will be well utilised.
6. Ask To Meet With Your Designer Again
This is a step that I so wish we'd taken! Arrange a date to next meet with your designer, where they can go through the stationery they've created for you. This should help to ease communications, as you will be able to tell them there and then if the colours they're using aren't spot on, if the fonts aren't what you were looking for, or if it just doesn't look how you'd imagined.
As it was, we had to do all of this over email, and there was so much back and forth, so many new versions (which costed us extra money every time), and gave us so much stress and worry. We started to feel like we were a burden to our designer, when actually we were paying her for a service and it was her job to deliver it to a high standard.
7. Don't Be Afraid To Compromise
In the end, we had to ask the designer to abandon what she'd done for us, because it just didn't look good. We asked her instead to recreate one of the designs on her website that she'd done for someone else, but with a few tweaks (no butterflies please!) and in our colours.
I just couldn't face any more back and forth with a designer who was sending me things that weren't what we were looking for! It may sound harsh, but it was becoming a major drain on my and my husband's energy; I needed to rein the whole thing back in and regain some of the control.
Are you in the process of designing your wedding stationery? What approach are you taking and how are you finding the process?
Lisa x