What did people do before the wonder that is Pinterest? It’s such a great space for collecting ideas and thinking through the look of a wedding day.
Here’s a few thoughts and tips for the exciting ideas and Pinteresting stage of planning a wedding.
Dreaming Dreams
The great thing about using Pinterest or flicking through wedding magazines, is the wide variety of themes and ideas that you’re given. My advice would be to make the most of this time and explore a few different avenues, maybe creating a board for each. Have some fun dreaming dreams!
I went through several different versions of the general theme for our wedding day. (At least 1 of these was before we’d actually got engaged... Secret boards are everything! I ambiguously named mine ‘Special Day’, just in case Tim ever caught sight of it.)
I started off loving the idea of incorporating wild flowers throughout our day, and going for a fairly relaxed, boho feel. When I floated this idea past my husband-to-be however, he wasn’t the biggest fan and thought it didn’t quite fit with us.
In the end, we chose to have a fairly relaxed feel, but with a bit more classic romance mixed in, e.g. roses were our main flowers, with gypsophila to compliment.
Don’t Be A Lone Wolf
Getting married is the process of two people becoming united together; so resist the temptation to plan it all yourself.
One of my absolute pet peeves when it comes to wedding planning, is this attitude of the women planning everything and the men being disinterested and just rocking up on the day. Not only is this massively sexist, but it completely goes against the point of the day!
This is a time for working together, preparing to build a marriage and a life as one unit. Every aspect of the day should reflect both of you. Learn to compromise and work together, even if this is something that you find a challenge – if you can’t do it when planning a one-day event, you’ll be scuppered when it comes to much bigger and more important decisions and challenges later in life.
As someone who organises events as part of my job, it took discipline not to rush on ahead and do it all myself! For every aspect of the day I would think of some ideas, but then take them to Tim to hear his ideas too, before excitedly making decorations or meeting with a vendor together.
Decisions, Decisions...
All idea stages must come to an end at some point.
Have a look through all of the different ideas you’ve collected and begin to filter them down. Which are your favourites and why? Are they practical? Can you afford them with your budget? Do you both like them? What will your friends and family think? Do they reflect you both as a couple? Will you still like it in 40 years’ time when you look back at your wedding day?
If you’ve been using Pinterest, make a main board that all of your filtered ideas can be moved onto. Then take a step back, make a cup of tea, (you might even want to come back to it the following day) and see how the ideas work together. Are they cohesive? Will they fit within the shape of the day? Do you both like all of the ideas, and if not, are there any areas that you need to find a compromise on?
If you need to, start to filter some things out until you’re left with a core of exciting, practical ideas that you both love (or can at least put up with if you’ve had to compromise in one area to have your choice in another!).
Now it’s time to start making those dreams a reality. In my next set of posts we’ll be chatting through the practicalities and logistics of making bookings and organising each area of the day; starting with drawing up a timeline.
Are you a serial Pinterester or have you come to this with a really clear picture of the day in your mind?
Lisa xx
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